People tell me I’m a quiet person. I am actually not. I just don’t know how to make small talk and I suck at entertaining people by discussing other people with them.
But I love having conversations , the kind in which you really get to know the other person for who they really are. The kind in which you discuss and debate a particular subject with an open mind. The kinds that involve taboos and topics people usually don’t talk about.
Such conversations have taught me to approach matters from different perspectives. There are so many ways to look at a topic or consider a situation. When we talk to others about something with an open mind, we learn that things aren’t always black and white, there are so many shades in between. Deep conversations are so fulfilling, They are like a communication between the souls.
I’m sometimes surprised at what each single person can bring to the table. Every person can teach us something if we are willing to learn from them. People may not talk about some things openly, but when you ask , they do have their share of opinions on everything.
Our ideas, thoughts, and beliefs are largely based on the experiences we have. We can all go to the same school, read the same books, live in the same place, but our experiences are unique. We need to talk about those experiences and learn. When we discuss how we really feel about something we see that everyone is very much like us, despite the apparent differences.
Also, when you converse deeply you connect deeply. Conversations not only evolve our ideas , they make our respect and love for the other person grow. We become a better listener and learn to handle controversies and conflicts better.
Its sad that people today communicate more through texting, posts, and applications. The art of conversation is getting lost somewhere. Emoticons and stickers can never replace the expressions you exchange in a conversation. Real communication is through conversation , with the patience to listen, and the gentleness to respond and not react.